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This post contains religious undertones. If that G-d forbid offends you, or upsets you in some way, kindly raise your hand and one of our ushers will help escort you to the exit. This is my little slice of the internet to do with what I wish. If you can handle that, by all means read on!

 

We live in a very very mixed up world. In Belgium it is now legal to euthanize children. In Germany parents can be jailed for homeschooling their own children, and here in the good ole’ US of A mainstream media has turned to glorifying alternative lifestyles while at the same time silencing traditional ones. Everywhere you look people are being ridiculed for holding any kind of traditional values. Nothing is too racy for entertainment anymore and to be honest I am really worried about the kind of world I have brought my precious children into.

 

They say that when you become a parent is when you become more conscious of your faith, and I guess I am no exception. At a time when every other article I read makes me wonder if we are living in the twilight zone, the only thing I want to do is withdraw from it all, to shut off the t.v and turn off the phone and get back to basics- to the place where things actually make sense. For me, this special retreat is my faith. I have always been a G-d fearing person, but lately drawing closer to Hashem (“the name” in Hebrew) is the only thing that gives me hope that everything is going to be alright. I find myself praying all the time- sometimes for peace of mind, but also to make sense of the world around me.

 

As I sit here and write this post, I feel more nervous than I have about any other post. Afraid that my audience will judge me, that my confession of faith will somehow alienate me in this world where we praise the unusual and scoff at the traditional. When I mentioned this post to some of my close friends  I expected them to tell me to skip this one, and stick with my usual humor, but they didn’t do that. Instead my precious friends told me to tell my story, that I owed it to girls everywhere. So here goes:

I am coming out.. covered. That’s right. I cover my hair. I do it because I want to, and not because anyone else makes me or because I am in any way oppressed. I do it because it makes me feel good about myself, and helps me focus on myself as a PERSON and not just as a woman. In the Jewish tradition women who are married cover their hair. Many people think this is because covering the hair makes a women less attractive but that is simply not the case, in fact- I am telling you the truth when I say that since I started covering my hair I have felt more beautiful than I ever have in my whole life. The reasoning behind covering has to do with a woman saving a special part of herself for her husband;that is; creating privacy. That’s why some women wear wigs. They are still hiding that part of themselves from the world at large.

When I first thought about covering, I was afraid that the people in my life would judge me for my choice. I changed my profile picture on facebook and waited for the firestorm, but it never came! One by one my friends commented on how pretty/cool/fun it looked! Some even wanted a tutorial on how to do it themselves! Here I was dreading sharing this part of myself and they just made it so EASY! For the most part, there was still some opposition, mostly from my family members who feared that this display of modesty was a feeble attempt to belong to something, anything, or worse was something I didn’t really want to do. I am confident that seeing me happy in my choice will help then eventually come around. Also, I was lucky enough to have two fairy Wrap-mothers who helped ease me into this. From videos on how to wrap certain styles, to introducing me to other ladies like me, Andrea and Rivka Malka of  www.wrapunzel.com have truly been sent by G-d to help me nurture my authentic self. They have been such an inspiration to me, to be fearless when it comes to proudly living the life I choose to live. Another person who has been truly supportive is Mr. Wright. I wish I could capture for you the way he looks at me, like I am a carefully wrapped gift just for him. I don’t think he realized how much HE would enjoy having a wife who covers.

 

Aside from the religious and personal benefits of covering I would be remiss if I didn’t at least mention the fun part! A WHOLE NEW WARDROBE!!! I have a whole new set of accessories to buy! Scarves, and headbands, and clips and flowers- my head is now a work of art! I get so excited to wrap in the morning and most of the time I don’t even know what I am going to do when I start. Like some of my friends have said, I find myself planning my outfits around my covers these days! I even found another military wife who covers!

 

I know that it won’t always be an easy road. I am sure there will be some dirty looks or mean comments somewhere down the line- after all, society at large frowns on women doing anything but trying to catch up to men, but I am confident that if more every-day women like myself come forward and show that being religious and or traditional is not synonymous with being oppressed, then we might gradually be able to change the societal view on traditional values and empower those who do so to be proud to come out covered!

 

 

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11 thoughts on “Back to Basics or Coming out Covered!

  1. Great post.

    Posted on March 17, 2014 at 9:09 pm
    1. Wow! I have found another wonderful woman who feels so much like I do. Thank you for posting this on your blog. With all that is going on around the world, this is bravery as well as honesty.
      It takes courage to be authentic when the majority are just floating downstream with the rest.
      Thank you!

      Posted on August 26, 2014 at 8:43 pm
  2. Amy Lee, this post was awesome So articulate yet heartfelt. You said everything you had to say without any frills or excuses. Just you being you with awesome valuable outlooks and insights. I”m so blessed to know you!

    Posted on March 17, 2014 at 9:26 pm
  3. Amy-Lee, that’s so wonderfully written – and seriously kol hakavod for writing about this and putting it out for the world to read. I see your pictures and cannot believe you have just started covering, you wrap like a pro and look like a queen – as if you were born to do this. I’m also glad I’ve found your blog, it’s always a treat to find other Jewish bloggers out there 🙂 Happy to connect!

    Posted on March 18, 2014 at 1:00 am
  4. B”H

    I really look forward to your pictures and postings.

    Posted on March 18, 2014 at 4:12 am
  5. You are SO awesome!! I am uper duper inspired by you! I can imagine how hard it is to “come out” but you are doing so with such grace, love, and beauty! Very proud to know you <3

    Posted on March 18, 2014 at 6:13 pm
  6. I’m so happy for you that you wrote this post! I’m stopping by from the Tichelish group on Facebook. What a wonderful story. You are so right about how it is when you become a parent as well! <3

    Posted on April 1, 2014 at 12:42 am
  7. Amylee, you’re truly an inspiration. Your passion is evident and articulate. You make no excuses or apologies to anyone. I truly appreciate your blog in more ways than one but especially as a newly covering woman who has also been waiting for the hailstorm to hit me from those who are opposed to covering or who simply don’t understand. Thank you from the bottom of my heart for your eloquence and your sharing on such a personal matter. Kol Hakavod…..

    Posted on August 26, 2014 at 8:24 pm
  8. I am a military wife who started covering full time several months ago. I only know one person in real life who covers, and she is several states away now, at the last base we were at. Thank you for sharing.

    Posted on August 27, 2014 at 10:37 am
    1. My pleasure! Thank your husband for his service! Let me know if I can help in any way!

      Posted on August 27, 2014 at 2:08 pm
  9. Beautiful post!

    Posted on September 29, 2014 at 6:32 pm